Just wanted to say I’ve been noticing a trend with the people who give our bloggy a lookey-loo here and there, you guys seem to love the relationship/sexpert stuff so we’ll stick with what works. Also big shout out to everyone who’s commented and put in their opinions, we love the feedback and the conversations.

For many a single on the Gold Coast, One Night Stands have become as common as going to the gym, or going grocery shopping. To class it up a bit, I like to call em “One Hit Wonders”, makes it sound a bit more sexy, like a ruby red juicy strawberry doubled dipped in chocolate. No? Ok, so maaaybe just me then? I understand. Moving on.

Last night I was racking my brain to see how bars influence relationships and my eureka moment came when I walked past the bar and saw what appeared to be a “walk of shame” couple eating breaky at our fine establishment. Had a giggle cos it looks as though the one hit wonders had returned to the scene of the crime. ha. Good on us for being a full service resto/bar/lounge-y!

So I chatted around and got the low down on what others perceived of “one night stands”. Most who’ve never dabbled in the daring do-its, seemed to think that if you did do the dirty deed you were shamefully lowering your standards and can’t understand how something “like THAT” would be fulfilling?

I picked the brains of some of the couples I know, some said they “had their fun” back in the day, but racey romps are best when you get frequent repeats from the same partner. You get to try the kinky fun stuff, squishy sounds and emissions aren’t as embarrassing, you learn how to work your partners pink- parts like a champ, AND you don’t have to give them cab money in the morning.

Then I chatted to people in my parents generation, they were brought up on “free love” weren’t they, surely they could tell me what hippy lovin’ was all about? Turns out that was mostly just a Californifabrication, most got married at a young age and now 20 – 30 years later have only had 1 or 2 partners in their entire lifetime, they find sex boring and routine. i.e. – birthdays, holidays, special occasions ORRR they’re newly divorced and are experiencing love in the fast lane but it goes against how they were brought up.

Then there’s the hard core singles. Hey- OOO!!! Shout out to my peeps!

When you’ve been single for longer then 6 months you suddenly find your “care-factor” takes a swan dive off of the Q1 (really high building for non GC’ers) and it’s back to basics! It’s meat hunting time!

There’s a certain power hour at the bar, pub, or club when you look around the room and take inventory of what’s available.

It’s always the same, you look for the really hot dude/chick you wanna get sweaty and pretzel with, then loosely monitor their state of willingness and or availability. Then you look over yonder to boozely gaze at ones you’d consider turkey slapping… butttt you need a few more bevvies and or shots to seal the deal.

Then EEEchh, BBlah, SShazzzam you lock eyes accidentally with a lounging lizard, and quickly look away then silently wonder what bridge or sewer that troll crawled out from, OR covertly cock your head sideways viewing from a sly safe peripheral angle and amuse yourself by trying to envision which earthly creature best suits their facial structure and movement.

Once a hardcore single has their target locked and loaded, its pretty much a done deal and its over before you know it. This sentence pretty much sums it up: “OMG, I was SO drunk-one minute we were kissing, then the next thing you know I slayed a hottie and we had a skintabulous time – then I left right after.”

If you are a promiscuous promenader, its pretty much cut and dry. Most people don’t spend the night, or cuddle, and most people don’t call you or friend you on Facey. If the night was naughty and noteworthy you might get a future booty call but to assume exclusivity or “relationship status change” after one saucy sexventure you’re setting yourself up for serious disappointment and awkwardness.

I think since the debut of Sex and The City, sexy solo soiree’s are less tabu for women of my generation or this era in general. We can have sex like a man, and yes sadly the more partners you have the easier it gets to be less and less emotionally attached. Not that I’m saying everyone should become 7 Elevens and be open for business at all times, but if you want to have fun “practicing” your skills or just need some lovin’ you don’t have to feel guilty about it. As for the boys, ahhh well…. “boys will be boys” that never changes. :p

As for one night stands I do agree that yes repeated sexcapades with a partner does fine tune your skills, but there’s definitely something mysterious and sexy about a random rooting. Best believe if you’re a hot guy and we’re stuck in an elevator … I’ll know what buttons to push. ha!

Got a funny story about a One Night Stand? Have views that don’t collaborate with mine? Write in and tell us what you think!

In the meantime follow us @1two3dining on Twitter and on Facebook @ Onetwothree Loungebar