The art of Picking Up!

After writing my blog last week, I received a numerous amount of feedback especially from the guys! Thanks so much for writing in!

Apparently my “buy her a drink” line… was NOT the Golden Rule of the Gold Coast! In fact quite the opposite, and to some I came across as rude and pushy. I have to say I was a bit taken a back, so sorry, I truly had no idea guys could be so sensitive!

So I did a proper interview with 2 very different guys, each were honest and candid and the parallels were entertaining to say the least! Let’s meet the contenders!

Champ #1 – Mr. X
Mr. X is a well known club goer that hits the GC scene (and the ladies) on a regular with his bro-tourage, and is a firm believer in NOT buying girls drinks! “After all, you should be able to sell yourself and not have to buy a ladies affections”. He’s 23 years old, he has a wicked white collar kinda job, a candid personality, a mischievous twinkle in the eye, the charm and allure of a jungle cat, and his personality/looks Doppleganger would HAVE to be hands down Barney Stinson from the show How I Met Your Mother. When this boy suits up, it’s going to be ….wait for it…. Legend… wait for it… Dary! LEGENDARY good times.

Champ #2 – Mr. Diablo
Mr. Diablo is your typical chillaxed t-shirt & jeans kinda guy. He goes to bars to listen to bands (when he’s not playing in one), he occasionally goes to clubs, was in a serious relationship for a long time, but needed to explore before settling down. He’s about to turn 30, is a successful skilled trade labourer, been around the block, he’s that “Best friend/Funny Guy” guy… non-threatening, not sleezy, but can still throw ya down and slap skins like champ, devil of a good time. His Doppleganger looks/personality wise would have to be Gerard Butler circa. The Ugly Truth, maybe a bit less crass though…

SO ladies hope you’re wearing you’re spanx, cause it’s going to be tough holding all this candid information in!

DING DING!

Round #1 – Question: When you go to clubs are you solely going to pick-up?

Mr. X – Depends on the night, sometimes guys just DO go to hang out with guys and have some beers. But if you see a 9, then ya for sure I’d try to hit that, but that’s not the only thing that’s on my mind. If it happens cool, if not, whatever- I’m more interested in having a great time.

Mr. Diablo – I don’t go to clubs, I go to bars, normally just to drink beers and listen to music, but maybe I might get a “half stock” if a decent chick looks my way, if I DO go to a club, it’s only to pick up, but I don’t think about that. The chicks are usually way hotter at clubs though.

Round #2 – Question: Do you buy chicks drinks if you’re interested in them?

Mr. X – NO. Never. Why would I buy my way into a relationship when I should be able to sell it myself? If a girl expects me to buy her a drink I walk away and get the bartender to send her water. If they’re REALLY arrogant, I buy the whole table tonic water.

Mr. Diablo – Ya, I’m old fashioned that way I guess. Plus drunk chicks are hilarious.

Round # 3- Question: When you go out do you place importance on your appearance?

Mr. X – Always. 10% of what you say is the language you speak when you communicate with the opposite sex. Body Language is what really sells it. When I go out I look like I can afford to be at the place I’m at. I normally get ready at a friends house and bring 3 different “looks” to choose from depending on the night. The important thing is to stand out. If you dress like everyone else, you might as well be like everyone else. How you look is just as important as having fresh breathe, no B.O., and a personality.

Mr. Diablo – I shower and I make my bed everyday. Being clean – that’s important to me. I normally wear a t-shirt and jeans. I’m just that kind of guy. If I’m going to a club I might have to wear black pants, I have a natural man scent so no cologne, shoes I wear whatever. If I’m going out to pick-up then ya I put more effort into it, I groom, maybe do some manscaping…

Round #4 – Question: Do you prefer hitting on women or when women hit on you?

Mr. X – I find it flattering when women come up to me and hit on me. The fact that someone else is sexually attracted to me and wants to hit on me is exciting.

Mr. Diablo – YES! I love it when women are forward. I find that really attractive when women make the first move. But I like to plan the actual date.

Round #5 – Question: What in your definition is a 6,7,8,9,10?

Mr. X – 6-7 are normally not hot but not ugly. They’re shy, take some work, and don’t really stick out from the crowd. 8′s are better then average, couple things that could be fixed, some are “Prawns”… nice body but could do without the head. 9 – Almost perfect, they’re the 10 but they don’t want you, high maintenance, they make you work for it. A 10 is perfect in your eyes and your buddies! They had a smoking bod, fun personality, and they are into you! (would you ever go for anything under a 6? – No. But who am I to judge my version of 6 could be someone elses 10)

Mr. Diablo – 6 – are 1 night stands, can turn into 5′s in the morning. 7′s are fun to date, they are the average chicks, 8′s are the ones you want to take home, they’re naturally beautiful, fun to be around and not full on themselves, 9′s are outta sight the model chicks, and 10′s don’t exist because no one is perfect. (would you ever go for anything under a 6 – Not intentionally.)

Round #6 – Question: Do esthetics REALLY matter?

Mr. X – I think it’s important to look your best. Your presence is determined by your presentation. But I HATE when Gold Coast chicks think they’re all that and they’re just plastic.Those are the girls you just ignore and be rude to. It’s the only way to get through to them.

Mr. Diablo – I like boobs of all sorts so if they get a boob job, that’s ok. The tans, extensions, fake nails, clown make-up doesn’t really appeal to me. But a french manicure and nice hair works for me.

Round #7 – Question: What’s your “It’s only a one night stand” code? Sleep-overs, number exchange, and cuddling? Pro or Con?

Mr. X – Well it all depends. Normally you can’t just kick someone out of bed, but I’d prefer not to have them there when I wake-up. I usually get the number before I “pick-up” so it’s not awkward afterwards, and definitely no to cuddling.

Mr. Diablo – Lol! Usually I sleep over cause I’m too drunk to drive. If I remember if the night was fun then I’ll ask for her number. Absolutely NO cuddling for one night stands!

Round #8 – Question: Are you intimidated by older women, successful women, or women who are more intelligent?

Mr. X – Older women are fun, my only friends that are girls are older women. Successful women and women who are intelligent don’t bother me I like someone who can hold and intelligent conversation, its just when they get high on themselves I find it irritating and annoying. My biggest pet peeve is when women judge you without even getting to know you. I don’t care how amazing you are, if you snub me from the get go, you won’t get my respect.

Mr. Diablo – Older women are best from experience! There’s No Bullshit. College and University type women are fine by me too, I think brains are attractive I love when they can carry a conversation. After all aren’t women supposedly smarter then men anyways?

Round # 9 – Question: Blondes v.s. Brunettes?

Mr. X – Both can be bitches. Hair colour doesn’t matter. It just matters how you present yourself and your body language.

Mr. Diablo – I dated a Brunette for a long time, so I’m going through a Blonde phase. But I’d take both home for dinner, and my Dad would high 5 me at the table! Seriously it doesn’t matter.

Last Question: What advice do you have to others going to clubs?

Mr. X – If you’re going to a club, don’t just try to play the game and give up after 1 person rejects you. Be the game. Go get the first rejection outta the way from someone who you know probably isn’t interested. (Oh like cleaning the pipes before a big date? – Laughs… I guess so, weird) Just be natural, don’t go in there thinking you’re going to pick-up, think about all the awesome things you have going for you, and have fun with it. Before you go out, see if your friends think you look good, and have confidence. When you look good you feel good, and you’ll have a good time.

Mr. Diablo – I don’t know. I just don’t think about it. If I’m going out to have fun, I have fun. If I’m going out to pick up, I’ll pick-up. I don’t really put too much emphasis on a strategy, I just do whatever.

MR. X’s – Last word: GUYS LEARN HOW TO DANCE! It’ll increase your game. Best defense is Offense. Annoy and Conquer. Works EVERYTIME!

After speaking with both guys, it was interesting to see that overall they had the same point of view, but the younger generation, or the Gold Coast version of clubbing places far more emphasis on looks, and not just the female appearance, their own as well. Whether that’s just a GC thing, or a conditioned thing I don’t know.

But when I asked why guys were mean here, and why they make rude comments, Mr. X just smiled and said that’s how Aussie boys flirt. They aren’t doing it to be mean, they are doing it because that’s the only way they can get through to women these days… ouch. The truth can be ugly.

What are your thoughts? Love to hear em!